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How to Support a Woman Living With Abuse in South Africa in 2025
South Africa’s crisis of violence against women remains one of the country’s deepest wounds. National research by the Human Sciences Research Council has found that roughly one in three women has experienced physical violence in their lifetime, while around one in ten has been sexually violated. These are not abstract figures. They represent people we know, sitting next to us at work, raising families, and building futures, all while carrying experiences they often hide for years.
The Quiet Weight Survivors Carry
When a woman is living with abuse, she often carries the emotional load long before anyone else notices. It may start with subtle control, such as monitoring her movements or isolating her from friends and family. Over time, this can grow into emotional humiliation, physical harm, or financial control. Abuse is rarely a single moment. It is a pattern of power that tightens slowly and painfully.
Why Listening Comes First
Most organisations that work with survivors emphasise that support does not begin with solutions. It begins with listening. Survivors often fear not being believed. They fear judgement, escalation, or retaliation. Simply creating a safe moment to listen, without pressure or criticism, gives someone the first sense of safety they may have felt in a long time.
South Africa Has Support Available at Any Hour
If someone needs help urgently, they do not need to face it alone. A national toll-free gender-based violence helpline operates day and night. Calls are answered by trained social workers who provide emotional support, guidance, and referrals to essential services such as counselling, shelters, or medical assistance. The line is available in several South African languages so that survivors can speak in the language they feel most comfortable with.
What Abuse Can Look Like
Abuse can take many forms. It might involve emotional belittling, intimidation, or threats. It could involve economic control, such as withholding money or preventing someone from working. It could be sexual coercion or forced intimacy. Understanding these patterns helps friends and family recognise danger early and offer support before the situation escalates.
The Social and Historical Context
South Africa’s high rates of gender-based violence cannot be separated from the country’s history. Researchers highlight how generations of inequality, violent power structures, and socioeconomic stress have contributed to today’s crisis. Many communities face unemployment, limited access to mental health resources, and long-standing trauma. Supporting survivors means acknowledging these broader forces too.
How You Can Offer Real Support
There are simple yet powerful ways to help someone facing abuse.
• Listen without judgement.
• Believe what they tell you.
• Help them explore options such as speaking to a counsellor or contacting a helpline.
• Reassure children who may have witnessed abuse that it is not their fault.
• Avoid pushing them to leave before they feel safe to do so.
• Challenge harmful comments or victim-blaming in your own circles. Culture shifts when everyday conversations shift.
A Nation Speaking Up
In recent years, South Africans have repeatedly taken to the streets after devastating incidents of violence against women and children. Communities have gathered wearing black, carrying placards, and calling for gender-based violence to be treated as a national emergency. Social media amplifies these voices, turning personal outrage into collective pressure for accountability and reform.
What Still Needs Attention
Despite a stronger national conversation, many barriers remain. Shelters are often full or far from where survivors live. Legal processes can be slow and emotionally draining. Many women rely financially on the person abusing them. These obstacles make long-term reforms essential, including improved access to mental health care, stronger police responses, and sustained investment in safe housing and support services.
Standing With Survivors
If there is one message survivors repeatedly share, it is that they want to feel seen and believed. You do not need special training to offer compassion. You only need to be the person who listens, who stays present, and who helps them find the next step when they are ready. Every supportive voice helps break the silence that allows abuse to continue. When communities stand with survivors, the path to safety becomes clearer.
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